True love is boundless. It knows no limits, no conditions, and no measure. When you feel it in its purest form, it consumes you entirely. Everything else in life becomes insignificant, fading into the background as the fullness of love takes centre stage. It’s a feeling so powerful, it eclipses all worries, doubts, and even time itself.
But what happens when, despite this boundless love, you have to let go? When you know, deep down, that holding on is no longer what’s right for either of you?
There is a unique kind of grief that comes when you set someone you love free. It’s not the kind of mourning we associate with physical loss, yet it feels just as profound. It’s as if you’re saying goodbye to a part of your heart while that person still exists in this world—but no longer in your life in the same way.
Even when you release someone out of love, the longing doesn’t simply disappear. It stays, an ever-present reminder of what was once shared, of the connection that once filled your world with light. It’s a quiet ache, always there, sometimes soft and sometimes overwhelming.
On days like today, I feel that ache deeply. It feels like mourning for someone who is still here on earth but just out of reach. The absence feels heavy, and the heart longs for the closeness that is now a memory. And yet, this longing is also part of love’s boundlessness—it stretches across time and distance, never truly fading away.
There’s a part of me, even now, that holds on to the hope that one day, they might knock on my door and say, “It’s all okay.” That they’ll return, and the pieces will fall back into place. And while I live my life, heal, and move forward, that hope stays—a quiet whisper in the back of my mind.
And then comes the doubt. The questions. The quiet voice inside that asks, “Was I not good enough? Did I do something wrong?” We often turn the pain inward, blaming ourselves for things that weren’t in our control. We look for reasons within, wondering if we could have changed the outcome, if we could have been more, done more, loved better.
These questions can be so heavy. They sit with us in the quiet moments, feeding the doubt, making us wonder if we weren’t enough. But the truth is, love—true love—is never about being “enough.” It’s not a matter of worthiness or perfection. Sometimes, love simply changes form. People have their own paths, and even though it hurts, their journey might take them away from us, through no fault of our own.
If you’re holding onto that self-blame, I want to remind you that love is not about measuring ourselves or our worth. It’s okay to have doubts, but it’s also important to remember that letting go does not mean you failed. It simply means you loved fully and deeply, and that’s a beautiful, courageous thing.
For those of you who feel this too, know that you’re not alone. Whether you’ve had to let go of a relationship, a friendship, or any connection that once filled your soul, your grief is real and valid. It’s okay to feel the depth of that longing. It’s okay to miss someone who is still here.
True love doesn’t follow rules or timelines. It stays with us, even as life changes, even as we move forward. While the pain may soften with time, the memory of that love remains, a part of us forever.
So, if today you find yourself mourning for someone still in this world, be kind to yourself. Allow yourself to feel. Love is never wasted, and sometimes, the bravest thing we can do is let go while carrying that love within us—still holding on to the possibility that one day, things will be okay.
With love and understanding,
Stacey x
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